Saturday, April 27, 2013


Blog – Week 8

Note of Thanks

Thank you to all of my classmates for you support and insight throughout this course.  I have learned so much from each of your personal experiences as they related to being an effective communicator.  It has extended the learning experience for me.  I wish you the best as you continue your academic journey.

Dianne

 

 

Saturday, April 13, 2013


Week 6 - Blog Assignment

To be quite honest, I have not been in many group situations that paid much attention to the adjourning stage.  It didn’t seem to matter whether or not the group was high-performing or if the group had the clearest established norms.  In my opinion, once the task was completed, the group members have just seemed to drift off on their separate ways. 

However, I have had one group that experienced a very memorable adjourning stage.  I had a wonderful student teaching supervisor.  She is an extraordinary mentor and a fascinating person.  Aside from being a college professor and student teaching supervisor, she also gave tours at the North Caroling Museum of Art.  At the end of our student teaching experience, she gave her ten student teachers a tour of the museum.  She singled out specific pieces of art from different periods and would relate them to how being an elementary teacher we would be able to influence the lives of children.  We then went to her house for a dinner and to share our final units.  It was hard to leave this group because we had been through so many courses together as well as shared our student teaching experience together.  All of us had been paired to experience a “dual” teaching experience in which we spent six weeks in one lower elementary grade and six weeks in an upper elementary grade.  Each pair was assigned to the same teachers, so that we could trade off grade levels at the halfway point.  In this way, we could share ideas and strategies about what worked and didn’t work well in the different classrooms and help each other design our final units.  It was a very close-knit group.  This final gathering was very memorable. 

As we are getting closer to obtaining our master’s degree in this program, I have given some thought as to how this group might adjourn.  At the end of our courses, I enjoy how we use our blogs to express our gratitude for each other and to wish each other good luck as we continue our studies.  This is a great way to adjourn since we are a part of an online community of learners.  However, as we near graduation, I look forward to meeting my classmates face-to-face at the graduation ceremony.  We have all shared so much of ourselves in our discussion posts and blogs that it would be nice to gather together to formally meet and to celebrate our accomplishments.

I think adjourning is an essential stage of teamwork because it gives the group time to celebrate their accomplishments, to acknowledge each other’s role in the team effort, and to reach closure before going separate ways.

 

Saturday, April 6, 2013


Week 5 – Blog Assignment

I have just gotten home from spending my spring break with my parents.  The conflict that I have spent a good amount of time wondering and worrying about exists between me and my father.  I believe there are underlying issues as to why my father and I have a difficult time having a conversation.  The Conflict Resolution Network website has been helpful in realizing that conflicts come about from differences – in needs, values, and motivations (http://www.crnhq.org/pages.php?pID=12#skill_3).  As I have shared with you before, I avoid conflict and confrontation because I have the tendency to shut down in those situations.  O’Hair and Wiemann (2012) describe unproductive conflict as conflicts that are managed poorly and have a negative impact on individuals and relationships involved (p. 220).  My avoidance to discuss sensitive and difficult issues, such as not addressing the communication issues that exist between us, aids in causing this conflict to continue (p. 221).  My fear is openly discussing the root of our communication difficulties will reveal too many feelings that I think will destroy the relationship (p. 227).  So, I have tolerated the communication difficulties and have accepted our strained relationship for what it is.  From The Third Side website, I learned that responding to conflicts productively requires courage, preparation, knowledge, skills, creativity, and coordination (http://www.thirdside.org/).  I need to find the courage to address this conflict with my father.  In addition, I learned from The Center for Nonviolent Communication website how to express myself honestly without attacking (http://www.cnvc.org./).  I need to express my desire to address our communication issues without blaming him.  I need to acknowledge the role I have played in causing this conflict to continue.  Avoidance of this unspoken conflict cannot continue. 

Please share any insights or advice you may have on this matter. 

Conflict Resolution Network. (n.d.). CR kit. Retrieved from http://www.crnhq.org/pages.php?pID=12#skill_3 

The Center for Nonviolent Communication. (n.d.). The center for nonviolent communication. Retrieved from http://www.cnvc.org/

The Third Side. (n.d.). The third side. Retrieved from http://www.thirdside.org/

O'Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2012). Real communication: An introduction. New York: Bedford/St.
            Martin's.